This past weekend Eskai and I celebrated our 11th wedding anniversary. We had a great day. We cheered on a friend as she ran in a half marathon, stopped in for some coffee/tea/hot chocolate with our kids, ran a few errands and then we were able to go out for dinner, just the two of us. Liz, our half marathon friend, watched our kids (so she gets credit for a full marathon) as we enjoyed a nice restaurant, not having to encourage kids to eat their dinner and some time just the two of us.

As I think back over our 11 years of marriage, I am reminded how the true the traditional wedding vows are. There are times that are better and times that are worse. There are times where you are richer and times were you find yourself poorer. There are times of sickness and times of health.

One of the biggest strengths of our marriage has been that we have faced these different times together. It has never been about me OR Eskai. It has always been about what is best for us and for our family.

Often people want to make a big deal about the Biblical command about wives submitting to their husbands and how it makes the wife “less of a person”. I strongly disagree. Over our 11 years of marriage, Eskai has not always agreed with me, in many areas she is smarter than me and has some times had to correct me, but she has made it her choice to submit to my leadership in the home.

At the same time I have tried my best to practice “loving her as Christ loved the church”. Her submission doesn’t give me a position of Lordship or even authority. Her submission gives me a position of service. To love her. To serve her. To honor her. To protect her. Submission by one does not mean domination by the other. I may have the final say on much of what goes on at home, but rarely do I base my decisions on my opinion alone (which is why I married someone who can think for herself and is pretty smart in her own right).

So our 11 years haven’t been perfect, but they have been good. We’ve never been in want  for anything. We are blessed more than we deserve. We have two amazing kids, who make us smile and laugh daily. We come from families who have modeled lasting love and have supported us in all of our endeavors.

I am blessed beyond measure to have a wife as I do to walk with through this life. 11 down; many, many more to go.


~ by mikefoster on October 9, 2012.

One Response to “Anniversaries”

  1. My husband and I just celebrated our 30th (yes, 30 years), Anniversary. We went away for a few days and spent some “us” time.
    We reflected on the past 3 decades and though it’s not always been “easy”, it’s been very good. I am so blessed by God to have a man that stands by me no matter what.
    Thank you for sharing your heart with all of us and keeping it real.
    May God continue to bless you and Eskai and your beautiful family.

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